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Dealing
With Aggressive Children (2)
by
Jamie Sullivan
Find
Out How To Handle Your Aggressive Child's Behavior!
Aside
from releasing pent up emotions, children who behave
aggressively may also do so because they have been
rewarded for the conduct. Parents may have hoped to
raise a child who is strong and able to stand up for
him- or herself in rough situations. More commonly,
parents may have inadvertently reinforced the aggressive
behavior through attention. Indeed, even nagging or
punishing children for acting aggressively can make
it more likely that they will act that way in the
future. Imagine, if you will, a child
quietly piecing a puzzle together or even playing
a video game. He/She has almost completed the puzzle/game
but cannot get the final pieces/play to come together.
Throughout this quiet half an hour the parent has
been around but has said absolutely nothing. Nothing,
that is until the child becomes obviously frustrated
and throws the puzzle/game across the room and begins
screaming or swearing loudly. At this point the parent
intervenes by reprimanding the child and sending him/her
to their room. It would appear that the parent has
done everything appropriate in this situation, except
for the fact that the only attention this child received
during the time period was negative. If this is commonly
the case, the child
may begin to feel that any attention is better than
no attention and as a result may continue to act out
disruptively in daily activities. When dealing with
aggressive children, it is worth the effort to praise
even the smallest attempt at proper behavior, while
paying very little if any attention to negative conduct.
Praise can be a very strong motivator.
It
is also important to remember that behavior can be
very difficult to change and that it takes a lot of
patience. Turning an aggressive child into a nonaggressive
child will not happen overnight, and the odd outburst
may even occur once the behavior has seemed to restore
itself.
Look
for more effective tips and techniques how
you can handle your aggressive children's behaviors
as well as how to create A WIN-WIN situation for both
you and your children,
visit : Child
Anger Revealed.
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