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Dealing
With Aggressive Children (1)
by
Jamie Sullivan
Find
Out How To Handle Your Aggressive Child's Behavior!
Although
aggressive behavior such as hitting, screaming, and
even biting is not seen as all that unusual from a
child of one or two years of age, the same conduct
in children merely a year or two older is often seen
as cruel and problematic. Controlling feelings and
emotions is, however, a learned skill and can be very
difficult to master (even for some adults!).
Staying
calm and collected not only requires a fair amount
of self-control and discipline, but also a basic understanding
of appropriate social behavior and morality. Most
children
under the age of five or six have a minimal comprehension
of what exactly is socially acceptable, at least beyond
pleasing Mom or Dad. Even then, some children may
find it difficult to control their temper and yet
there is often a difference between a child who is
deceptively ‘acting out' (which is rare, and often
due to an unstable or unsafe home environment) and
one who is simply trying to be assertive.
The
majority of children do not recognize their own strength
or even the full consequences of their actions; and
in a world where they are often being told what to
do, where to go and how to behave, it does not seem
all that unreasonable that they may sometimes need
to speak out and be heard. Those school-aged children
who continue to act obnoxiously or aggressively may
have never experienced the opportunity of being truly
listened to in a loving environment. Listening, on
the part of parents involves not only hearing your
children's jokes and laughter, but perhaps more importantly
hearing about those hurt, angered and unhappy emotions
as well. So often, children are not allowed to speak
negatively, complain, or offer a difference of opinion
and thus their feelings continue to build up until
one day they may unintentionally vent or lash out.
It is important to remember, however, that hearing
your children out does not mean submitting to their
every whim or desire.
Look
for more effective tips and techniques how
you can handle your aggressive children's behaviors
as well as how to create A WIN-WIN situation for both
you and your children,
visit : Child
Anger Revealed.
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